by Amanda Dickson
My rating: 4 of 5 stars
This is one of those books that tries to be all things to all people. The author seems to be baring her soul. It is also one of those books that you could find an 'aha' moment. A certain word, phrase, sentence, or paragraph might be just what you need at that moment in time.
I found my 'Aha' Moment...
I always say to anyone/myself when faced with a decision to make a change, "What is the worst thing that could happen?". Other than the result being life threatening, I think I can overcome all obstacles. That is certainly a negative way of approaching a decision. Especially for me, who considers myself a positive person.
Ms. Dickson gave me a new approach:
"What is the best thing that could happen?"
There several insights that I want to remember.
Introduction: "We want to see change coming, but sometimes it is a gift hidden behind wrapping paper; we don't know what's in there. It could be something we'll really like. It could bless our lives in way we might not have selected for ourselves, but that we'll embrace now that it's here."
Chapter 1 "You Look So Great, Did You Change Your Hair?
Practice by making small changes. They give you confidence when you need to make bigger changes.
Chapter 2 "Who's That Girl?"
"You are not your titles. You are not your roles. You are not the actions you take or the way people count on you. You are simply you-pure, beautiful, you."
Chapter 3 "The One Thing You Can Count on Is Change" Yada Yada Yada
The biggest change-your definition of happiness. Ms. Dickson suggests:"happiness is what is happening right now". (I am still thinking about this one.)
"You know how when you suffer one of the biggest challenges of your life, you often look back years later with fondness or even laughter...You marvel at how one of the worst times in your life could lead to one of the best times in your life. The trick to finding the happiness in those moments is to laugh sooner, not to wait for years to pass until the lightness lifts you up."
Chapter 4: "I Could Handle Anything but This, Not This"
Keep the book if...
Chapter 5: "Who Am I Without Her?"
Not applicable to me. It may be for you. Keep the book.
Chapter 6: "Oh! If You Had Seen Me Then!"
"Trying to get beautiful is a means to the end of 'feeling' beautiful.' We want the way we 'feel' when we think we're beautiful."
"This is the 'aha' moment. The way to feel beautiful at any age, with any body, is to shift the focus. We no longer need people to look at us to feel beautiful-we need to look 'at people'. We become the mirror for them" (I am still waiting for my 'aha' on this one!)
Keep the book and read this in a few years!
Chapter 7: "I Don't Know What Else to Do!"
Not applicable for my future. However, I have had this experience...loss of my job after 30 years in the work force. My positive self kicked in...I felt free. In fact, I took three years off before jumping back into the fray. I loved every minute of it. Now I am retired and I am enjoying every minute of it!
Chapter 8: "If You Never Change Your Mind, Why Have One?" (A potpourri)
"Change your thoughts, and you change your world." Norman Vincent Peale
"Our judgment can only be as good as our information." Author
"Are there any beliefs passed down in your family that you might like to let go of?" Author
"I knew much more then than I do now." Bono, U2 song
"The older I get, the more I realize I have yet to learn" Author
"The day you open your mind, even in a small way, to the possibility of changing the way you think, energy comes flooding in. You will be amazed at how much energy you were using to hold your opinions up in the air, like plates twirling on sticks..." Author
Chapter 9: There Is No Such Thing As a Habit As a Habit You Don't Want
"If you don't want to, you'll stop. That's how you'll know you don't want to anymore." (Credit for this quote given to Byron Katie/'Loving What Is.'"
Chapter 10: Everything is Going to Be Okay. EGBOK
'This too shall pass.'
Chapter 11: "Be the Change You Want to See in the World" Mahatma Gandhi
A lot was packed into this 130 page book. It will become a resident on my book shelf.
"Things do not change, we change."
Henry David Thoreau
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